I didn't know you'd sailed that much together, Chris(I assumed she was almost new to it).
I don't know if this helps, but we're not the ideal sailing couple that can each do it all. That may be because we started sailing with babies and sailing the boat was just one task, which I did. We make decisions together, I just take care of the sailing part.
I love to sail, and she loves to be sailing so that's what has worked very well for us.